Question 1

What are the key takeaways from Carole Robin's episode on Lenny's Podcast?

Accepted Answer

1. Vulnerability is a leadership strength, not a weakness - appropriately sharing uncertainty and asking for help builds trust and rallies teams more effectively than projecting false confidence. 2. Anger is a secondary emotion that creates distance - underneath anger is usually fear or hurt, and naming those connecting emotions leads to better outcomes in both professional and personal relationships. 3. The 15% rule enables growth without overwhelm - step slightly outside your comfort zone with disclosure and feedback, enough to feel it but not so much you trigger defensive reactions. 4. Stay on your side of the net when giving feedback - stick to observable behaviors and your own feelings rather than attributing motives or labeling the other person. 5. Giving advice often serves the advisor more than the recipient - asking questions and being a thought partner develops people better than providing quick answers.

Question 2

What does Carole Robin say about vulnerability and leadership?

Accepted Answer

"People do business with people not ideas, not products, not machines, not tactics, strategies, not even money, they do business with people. So you better get the people part right if you really want to succeed. And that interpersonal competence is a determinant of both personal and professional success." - Carole Robin "If you want to build a sustainable long-term legacy, then you probably want to think about showing up in a way that other people come to see you as a referent figure, somebody in their life that they say, 'When I grow up, I want to be more like that.' And that is a form of power." - Carole Robin "Step a little bit outside your comfort zone. If you step a little bit outside your comfort zone, you're very unlikely to freak yourself or the other person out. But you'll know, you'll feel it a little bit, you'll be like, okay, I feel just a little uncomfortable saying this, but I think I'm going to try." - Carole Robin

Question 3

What are Carole Robin's views on vulnerability, leadership, feedback?

Accepted Answer

Carole Robin: "People do business with people not ideas, not products, not machines, not tactics, strategies, not even money, they do business with people. So you better get the people part right if you really want to succeed. And that interpersonal competence is a determinant of both personal and professional success." Carole Robin: "If you want to build a sustainable long-term legacy, then you probably want to think about showing up in a way that other people come to see you as a referent figure, somebody in their life that they say, 'When I grow up, I want to be more like that.' And that is a form of power."

Carole Robin

How to build deeper, more robust relationships | Carole Robin (Stanford professor, “Touchy Feely”)

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Carole Robin

How to build deeper, more robust relationships | Carole Robin (Stanford professor, “Touchy Feely”)

Carole Robin

How to build deeper, more robust relationships | Carole Robin (Stanford professor, “Touchy Feely”)

TRANSCRIPT

Carole Robin

How to build deeper, more robust relationships | Carole Robin (Stanford professor, “Touchy Feely”)